Can You Hear Me Now?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about listening. I’m not talking about just hearing what other people say. I’m talking about really listening to them.

Being a good listener has always been difficult, but in the high tech electronic age in which we live today, it has become almost impossible. We think that we have to be constantly “connected” to our cell phones and laptops. Often our communication is limited to short, sporadic and abbreviated instant messages.

I must admit that I too have fallen victim to the allure of instant wireless communication. I am never more than a few feet from my cell phone and if it lights up or makes a noise, I have to look at it as soon as possible.

I really want to become a better listener. Listening, really listening to others shows them that we value and are interested in what they have to say. It tells them that they are important to us and that we respect and appreciate them.

So I have been trying hard to be a better listener. I have found it to be much more difficult than I had anticipated. Even without the electronic distractions, I have found that really listening can be very challenging.

I found it difficult to focus completely on what others were saying. I found my mind racing ahead, thinking of what my response would be or about something similar that happened to me. Even with added effort, I found myself focusing more on speaking than listening.

While I found my experiment in listening to be very difficult, I will not give up. I will make an even greater effort. I will try harder to really listen, to my friends, my family and my Heavenly Father. I will try to be quiet, to be still and to listen…

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4 Responses to Can You Hear Me Now?

  1. Deborah says:

    Great article. About a week ago I read something that said, “even Heavenly Father doesn’t want to have a one side conversation and that we should take time to listen to what he has to tell us.” So I’ve been really trying to listen to him this past week. (:

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  2. Anonymous says:

    Absolutely wonderful!! That is why I love reading so much, I feel like when I’m reading,I’m REALLY listening to every word being said. If I didn’t catch it all the first time, I just re-read it. This was awesome, because we all need to be better listeners! Being a good listener helps make a friend great!

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  3. Palak says:

    In my opinion…

    Being a good listener is not only being able to sit back and HEAR what is being said.. but also knowing when to reply back..

    As Deborah said it ” “even Heavenly Father doesn’t want to have a one side conversation..”.. if you never speak, its always one sided.

    As you stated though mom.. to often we try to think of what we are going to say before they finish talking.. we hear “key” words and base our response off a selective amount we heard rather than ALL of what we heard (I’m guilty of this at times as well).. I remember a “rule” taught in early school grades.. think before you speak.. Wait till the other has FINISHED talking.. then take in what you have heard and NOW contemplate your response..

    Honestly.. hearing the “pause” before someone replies to me when having those “heart-to-heart” conversations, makes me feel better.. I feel like they are actually THERE.. I feel like they truly care about the issue at hand… but the person that simply sits there.. has never done me any good… my dog has worked better.. because at least I don’t expect a response from them.

    Even saying “I don’t know what to say” after the pause is better than silence in cases with me at least

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